Do you want to get engaged?

before.. like in the 'old days' when my parents were young; if you wanted to get married, you got engaged first. if you were engaged, you definitely should marry the guy.you'd set the date together, plan and wait. from the moment you decide to marry a person, and choose that person - you're engaged.it is the waitingtime till you can actually get married, cause if you want a wedding you have to plan a bit.. and save up some money maybe.
- now it is different. now you dont ask if the person wants to marry you, it seems like many decide to get engaged instead. the question is not "do you want to marry me?" but, "do you want to get engaged?"

i get all distraught when i meet people who's engaged and has no plans whatever marrying the guy/girl. many persons i know are engaged infinitely.. as long as it keeps them happy i guess - it is just interesting to see how time changes. in the old days it ment that you were going to get married - and now it is just a step further in the relationship,and it doesnt mean anything more then the fact that you are engaged.. and thats that."why do everyone keep asking about a wedding?!" :P